Is your partner cheating on you? If you say yes, you may be right. And if you’re not sure, wait a little bit. Don’t confront your partner until you have read these 10 signs your partner is cheating on you that I’m about to show you.
I know it’s not easy to deal with a partner who is cheating, simply because your relationship is at stake.
What if you are wrong? Oh, but what if you are right?
What if you accuse your partner of cheating and it’s not true? What if they deny it? How will things change? Can you ever go back to being normal again?
A secret affair is like a bombshell. You feel shocked, enraged, and humiliated. You feel betrayed, your trust squandered. But for many people, the worst part isn’t the act itself, but the secrecy.
There are signs of cheating you need to look at in your relationship before you can conclude whether your partner is cheating or not.
Cheating in relationships is one of the worst feelings we have in this life. And to discover that an affair is going on between your partner and someone else, can make you feel like the ground is shifting under you as you question everything you know about your relationship— and you begin to wonder how things have suddenly changed.
So if you suspect your spouse is cheating on you, you have a lot to look at.
But before you approach them, pay attention to some of these red signs that they might be cheating:
1. Secretive Phone or Computer Use
If your partner changes his or her password or won’t share it with you. Or you find out your partner is always texting or sneaking off to take phone calls. Or if your partner stops using shared devices altogether.
If your partner is trying to control what you can and can’t do on their phone, then something is wrong.
And if you notice that your partner is deleting texts and constantly clearing their browsing history, then that may not be a good sign.
2. Changes in Intimacy
You see, intimacy is not only about sex. Intimacy also has to do with communication. And if there’s a breakdown in communication, it is a negative sign.
If you can’t get your spouse to communicate with you, and no longer shares his or her day with you, or the romantic words like “I love you”, “I miss you” are no longer spoken, there’s likely an underlying issue.
Keep in mind that couples grow through dry spells, but if he or she is not even showing interest in you and nothing has really happened to cause the distance between you, cheating might be a reason why this has happened.
3. No Attention or Avoiding You
Spending time together with your partner makes your relationship stronger.
When partners are cheating, they are more likely to change the way they present you to other people because they don’t want people to see both of you together.
If your partner is no longer paying attention to you like before. Or you see that your partner seems anxious whenever you’re together, it’s a red flag you have to deal with.
4. Lying and Dishonesty
Dishonesty in a relationship and marriage is a red flag. If you notice some avoidance strategies, it may be an indication that your spouse may be cheating.
If you find your partner has been lying to you about things…. If he or she is not where they are supposed to be, or if they are not doing what they tell you they are doing, it might be time to sit down and ask them what is going on. Because honesty is a very important factor in relationships.
5. Suddenly Tracking Your Whereabouts
If your partner suddenly wants to know exactly what time you’re leaving for work, when you’ll be home and is asking for details about your schedule that usually do not interest him or her, that is a red flag.
He or she may be tracking your whereabouts in order to make phone calls or visit with his or her lover.
6. Gets Angry When You Try to Confront Him or Her
Listen, someone who hasn’t cheated will likely have a good explanation for their suspicious behavior and do what it takes for you to feel confident about them.
A cheater, however, may get defensive because you’ve blown their cover. It is very common for cheaters to deflect responsibility and get irritated by your questions.
They often try to shut you down, try to change the discussion, and even criticize you for being suspicious.
7. Frequently Picks Fights With You
Some partners do this a lot. And it’s one of the signs your spouse is cheating. Doing this provides a reason to get mad and storm out of the house and thus the opportunity to meet a lover. A cheater may also do this because of mixed emotions he or she is feeling about betraying you.
8. Constantly Talks About Your Relationship Ending When You Fight or Argue
In general, if your partner seems very negative about your relationship and says things like, “What would you do if our relationship ended?” or “If anything ever happened to us, I would always love you like a friend.” These statements may be a sign he or she has a lover to fall back on if your relationship ends. If your partner repeats these kinds of statements often, be suspicious.
9. Changing Appearance
If your partner previously cared little about her appearance but has made big changes out of the blue—like buying new clothes or wearing makeup more often — it could indicate an effort to impress another person. The same goes for husbands who feel a sudden urge to dress better and beef up their arms.
10. Don’t Want You to Do Anything Nice for Them
If your spouse seems defensive or uncomfortable when you make a romantic gesture or offer to cook for them, it might be a sign that your offer is just making them feel more guilty because they know they don’t deserve it
Let me make one thing clear: just because your partner is exhibiting a couple of the behaviors that I just talked about doesn’t mean that they’re definitely cheating. It may simply be that these are indicators of trouble ahead in your relationship
But if you’ve seen several of these indicators in your partner recently, and you’re feeling that things aren’t on track with your relationship, I encourage you to act to turn things around now before matters get any worse.
Remember, life can go on, but only if you choose to make it happen. Understanding why your partner cheated might be the best learning experience you will ever have. But now that you’re aware of what to do, examine your relationship and make it right.