Want to know how to chat with a girl like a pro? If yes, here’s an important article you should read.
Does this sound familiar to you? You have a crush on a girl (whom you’ve just met or have known for a while). She seems like someone that can go on a date with you, and then out of nowhere, you begin to wonder what to say to her.
Telling her about your work, the weather, impending holidays, and other topics, as well as exaggerated topics, becomes tedious.
Of course, you don’t want any of that… You want to have an engaging, flirty, and entertaining chat with her so you can learn more about her.
I’m sure you want to see how to chat with a girl without being boring. You want to start a conversation that will lead to you gaining a new girlfriend, right?
There are some things you can do to make the experience more enjoyable for both you and the girl you are messaging.
With the steps I’m going to tell you, you’ll never have to worry about how to chat with a girl again.
These steps apply to any situation where you want to keep a conversation going, whether you want to know how to chat with a girl online, on dating apps/sites, in person, by text, etc.
While many people think that chatting with a girl seems complicated, the fact is, it’s really simple. How easy could it be?
It’s easy to do in only a few steps. If you follow these procedures, you will be in stress-free conversation mode whenever a chat opportunity arises with any girl you meet.
Here’s how to keep up with a girl’s conversation:
Begin the Right Dialogue
Look, there’s a lot of advice out there, but the best piece of advice you’ll find on this subject is to start strong.
Start with confidence, no matter what you’re going to talk about, whom you’re going to talk to, or how long you’re going to talk for.
In a conversation, first impressions matter, and if you can get off to a solid start, the rest of the talk will flow more smoothly.
Understand How To Talk To A Girl
Pay attention… There are easy and difficult ways to talk to a girl. The difficult route is to improvise, coming up with ideas as you go. Conversation topics that are simple to understand.
Before you begin the conversation, make a list of a few fascinating subjects to discuss, and then drop them to keep the conversation moving.
You should try to make them fascinating to both you and her, allowing her to share her thoughts and learn more about her.
Ask her how she’s dealing with her stress if you’re both analyzing the season.
Alternatively, ask questions that enable you to know more about her. I mean questions that let you know her are based on her true nature, not merely facts about her.
Ask deeper questions about her interest, her history with it, or her desires for it instead of shifting from one superficial topic to another (such as ‘What are you doing?’ and ‘Where are you from?’).
For instance, she tells you, “I’m a magazine writer.” You could say, “This sounds like a lot of fun! ‘Do you write about issues that you are passionate about?” (This question allows you to know her present).
‘What inspired you to start writing?’ (This question allows you to know her past).
‘Do you enjoy reading the magazine? ‘Do you believe you’ll keep writing for them?’ (This question allows you to know her desires).
Do you see how these questions are more intriguing and provide more information than merely surface-level questions?
And here’s the best part:
These types of questions not only provide additional information but also get her more involved in the conversation since they aren’t likely to be asked very often by most guys. They make her want to extend the conversation for longer, without wasting time.
Tell Her About Yourself
Remember, when you’re chatting with a girl, it’s a two-person conversation. Asking her questions without disclosing your own personal information will put a lot of strain on her (especially if you’re still a stranger).
However, there are a few simple ways to tell her about yourself while being focused on her (and learning about her):
If she expresses a passion you share, you could say “Me too!”. If she says she enjoys music, you could say something like, “On weekends, I take my guitar to play with my friends.”
This shows her that you have things in common, and you’re paying attention. That encourages her to share more with you.
The bottom line is this:
If you merely ask questions and she just answers, you can’t have a true chat. However, if you tell her about yourself, she will be interested in learning more about you and will feel more comfortable opening up to you.
Look for ‘Conversational Leads’
Here’s something most guys aren’t aware of:
Any girl will constantly tell you things she wants to talk about, and if you just listen to her, you will be able to understand her.
For instance, if she says:
“I definitely need to clean up the photos on my phone. I have an excessive amount.” That means she wants to discuss her artwork. Ask if you could see those photos she wants to delete.
If you pay attention, it’s really appealing. Don’t just reveal yourself to her, but also make her understand the deeper meaning of what you’re expressing. Girls like a guy who is concerned about them.
Show her that you really care about her. She will love you thousand times more as a result of this. That’s how to chat with a girl without being boring.
Don’t ‘Filter’ Your Thoughts
When you’re talking to a female and you have a strong bond with her and you don’t want to make a mistake, it’s natural to go into ‘filtering’ mode, rejecting any notion that isn’t proper or impressive. She will no longer like you if you say these inappropriate/unimpressive/stupid things.
However, there is a major flaw in this method of thinking: You’re not talking if you’re continuously censoring what to say… How can you chat if you don’t say anything?
You’re not talking if you’re constantly filtering… And how can you chat if you don’t say anything?
You need this girl to know the real you, even if you say something stupid. Even if your filter tells you it’s ‘wrong’, express your true feelings. And I can assure you that this advice is effective.
Don’t Worry When There Is Silence
People are often uncomfortable with silence, so it’s extremely natural to fill the silence in a conversation right away.
When there is silence, do not panic. She might be busy. Wait for her to complete the task (women almost always will).
Now, if she doesn’t start talking right away, don’t feel obligated to do it… Allow for a powerful moment of silence. Why is silence so powerful in a conversation? For two reasons:
You can become more aware of your surroundings. Examine the space (and maybe discover something to talk about). Examine her body language to see if she is physically interested. For a brief moment, stare into her eyes without speaking (incredibly but subtly romantic).
Panicking when there is silence leads to awkward conversation and causes you to lose focus on these modes of communication. Accept quiet moments and use them to your advantage.
Use the Right Tools
Another key element to a successful chat is making sure you are using the right chat tools. Many chat applications offer voice and video chat capabilities, so make sure you are using them to their fullest potential.
If you are using WhatsApp or Messenger, you can make use of voice calls, or video calls. This will help you have a good chat experience.
As you can see, chatting with a girl you just met is easy. You just have to try to be friendly and engaging. It can be easy to get lost in the virtual world and lose track of the conversation. So make sure you keep your conversation flowing and be respectful of the girl you are talking to.