Has your mind been wondering recently with questions like, is my boyfriend cheating, who is he cheating with, what does she have that I don’t, did he find her more attractive, when did he fall out of love with me and lots more… take a deep breath and relax because in today’s article we’ll be discussing some of the reasons why your boyfriend would cheat on you.
First of all I’d love you to understand that knowing the answers to your questions will not turn back the hands of time and make him faithful, nor will it bring the both of you back together again if you already parted ways, rather, it will help give you clarity to the situation and perhaps help you know how to handle your next relationship better.
If you have experienced infidelity before now, you will agree with me that cheating, simply defined as unfaithfulness, is one of the most traumatic experiences one can have in a romantic relationship and that most of the time, it impacts severely on one’s emotional and mental wellbeing.
According to Everyday Health, about 50%-60% of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship. What about the women being cheated on, you may ask? Well, about 70% have no idea they are being cheated on or maybe, they just don’t want to know.
Men who have tendencies to cheat usually give off signs, it is left for you to now do whatever you wish with these signs. Check out these 10 Signs your partner will cheat on you for some of these indicative signs.
While at that, also bear in mind that, one of these signs isn’t enough reason to conclude that your boyfriend is cheating, however, three or more of these signs, are strong hints that he has pulled away from you and is moving toward someone else.
Here Are Some Of The Reasons Why Your Boyfriend Would Cheat On You
1. Communication Difficulties
This often starts when there is an inability to communicate emotions and beliefs, calmly and honestly from a place of genuine understanding. He feels that due to your focus on the project at work (which he fully supports); you are no longer meeting his needs.
He thinks that the fun spirit and presence that you used to bring to your dates is no longer there and instead of telling you about it and having you feel bad, he resorts to cheating with someone maybe more available…
That is sad… right? Yes it is…
Ok babe, even though you’re 100% not to blame for your partner’s infidelity, know that poor communication will kill any relationship, therefore, it’s important you learn to communicate and from a place of understanding, compassion, and belief in the relationship.
2. They have a problem with their self-esteem and they are constantly seeking for validation
When someone lacks confidence about who they are and what they can do, they are often caught in the web of feeling incompetent, unloved, or inadequate. Therefore, at the slightest feeling of being overlooked or unimportance, they crave for validation anywhere possible even if it is inappropriate.
They always need to know that they are still exciting, desirable, alive. Cheating on you can be what re-connects them to the person they used to be before they became invisible to you.
Which is why it is important you study your prospective boyfriend before the relationship even starts off… If they have low self-esteem, see if you can come up with avenues to deal with it, especially with communication if you can’t, don’t get your heart involved at all.
3. He is not ready to commit
This is one of the major reasons your boyfriend would cheat. Don’t overlook it darling, some men just love the fun that comes after the chase nothing else…
They live by the motto “You only live once,” so they try as much as possible to enjoy the thrill and excitements that come alongside the relationship, the beginnings, dates nights, sex here and there etc.
Once the relationship starts to settle in, and the euphoria of the new relationship reduces, they tend to become bored and off they go for a new catch because to him, the relationship it’s a game and he’s winning.
4. He Wants Out but, Don’t Know How to Tell You
You weren’t expecting to see this right? Well, as ridiculous as it sounds, your boyfriend would cheat on you because he wants to escape the relationship but lacks the bravery and emotional intelligence to put it into words and speak to you.
Some men are wired that way, rather than admit that they are no longer in love with you, they will turn to another and leave their tracks very open, just so you can catch them and end the relationship yourself.
I advise you to stay alert baby, know when your boyfriend has all his heart with you… he’ll show signs if he’s not. Try to mend the relationship if you can if not, part ways amicably that won’t hurt as much as when you find out he has left you for another.
5. It is his adopted trait
This is another reason why you should do some research on the guy you want to open your heart to sweetheart. Do that damn research because surely, your boyfriend would cheat on you if he learnt it at home and sees it as a way of life.
Your man may be more inclined to cheat if one or both his parents were routinely unfaithful, especially if his father was a chronic infidel.
6. He is a Narcissist
Narcissism is yet another reason your boyfriend would cheat on you. It is a personality disorder found mostly in men. It makes them think very highly of themselves, need admiration, believe others are inferior and lack empathy for others.
I’m emphasizing it again, sweetheart, do some research before you hand over your precious heart because if your boyfriend is a narcissist he’ll be egocentric, see everything as a power contest and cheat on you because he feels he doesn’t need to play by the rules.
7. He is a Chronic Liar
No no no… don’t blink on this one babe, I know we all lie at one point or the other to sometimes save our relationship or what not, yea…but if your boyfriend selfishly lies (dishonesty) to maintain his appearance or avoid an unpleasant reaction without feeling a sense of guilt or self-consciousness, he would definitely cheat on you.
The three essential keys to a successful relationship are trust, love and honesty. If you ask me, they shouldn’t be found a little above 70%.
8. He still has Some Baggage from his Last Failed Relationship
Now that’s some reason babe, if his past relationship hasn’t ended properly, he hasn’t moved on or perhaps he still wants his Ex back, he will struggle to trust you which is another major reason your boyfriend would cheat on you.
He might most time envisage you to be his ex and run off back to her at any slightest opportunity.
9. He didn’t accept you completely
You think that’s not possible…? Well, it is… Let me show you how with this instance, let’s say your boyfriend has some beliefs he keeps dear, maybe, he believes in healthy eating, moderation, and regular exercise while you avoid exercise like it’s a disease and feeds on tasty desserts like your life depends on it.
He tries to get you over to his side because he believes it’s healthy for you and you refuse all the time because your belief is different, he gets frustrated and boom… you find out he is having an affair with a girl he met at the gym.
That’s what happens when a man dates you without accepting you for who you are first.
A man who has not entirely accepted you in a relationship will always look for an exit, making him vulnerable to the temptations of cheating?
10. He lacks Trust
If your boyfriend can’t leave you comfortably with the most attractive guy in the world without jittering, would cheat on you simply because he doesn’t trust you.
He’ll do and say all kinds of crazy things if he sees you around guys, most times unconsciously and end up leaving the relationship thinking you hurt him no matter how true you are and how you explain yourself.
Although no relationship is perfect, and it’s impossible to predict the future, there are still ways you can treat your boyfriend and reduce the chances he would cheat on you. Firstly confirm his interest in the relationship, then you both should work together to strengthen a relationship, discuss all the loopholes, and proffer a solution that suits all. If you do this, you will reduce the chances your boyfriend will cheat.